Missing you

As mentioned in my last post, I recently lost my girlfriend. This is not the first time I experience death, but it is the first time I lose someone in these type of circumstances. (Some details I do not wish to disclose on the internet or on this public blog.) I have been very saddened by the circumstances. I might write about this experience at a later date when I feel stronger to do so. Right now I would just like to share some help for those who might be going through the natural pain and process of grief.


Grief can include:
The diagnosis of a terminal illness, any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This may also include significant life events such as the death of a loved one, divorce, drug addiction, the onset of a disease or chronic illness, an infertility diagnosis, as well many tragedies and disasters.


There are stages to grief. The Five Stages Of Grief, was first introduced by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. She was the pioneer on bereavement studies. The stages are 
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
This is a website I came across that might be helpful. It talks about the different stages of grief.


Click here for a more detailed explanation on the stages. 
Click here for help understanding grief and some ideas on how to cope with loss. 
Click here for coping strategies and ideas/exercises.


Grieving is a painful process but one that must be had. Remember that your grief is yours and yours alone. No one can tell you how to grieve or that your feelings are wrong. They are yours and are to be validated. Though grief is a personal experience, also keep in mind that you don't have to do it alone!


"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."  ~Kahlil Gibran